QUESTION FROM A READER:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
What and when are the best time and way to ask a girl for a date?
A lot of my friends tell me that the best way is to become a friend
with her at first and then to try to "deepen" the relationship. But
what I do is when I meet a girl that I am interested in, I ask her
out if not immediately, I do it the day after. And I always get
rejected. What do u think?
--- Ivan
MY RESPONSE:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Well, there's a definite school of thought for both sides of that
argument. But in a way, I think it's a loaded question. But I'll
try to answer it the best I can. What this really depends on is
the type of girl you're going after and the manner in which you
ask her out. So we'll tackle the first part now:
The Type Of Girl
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Okay, now when I say "type of girl," I'm not talking about who
she is (blond, brunette, 5'7 tall, etc.). I'm talking about how
INTO you she is. See, if a girl likes you, it doesn't matter
when you ask her out. She's going to say YES.
But if she's on the fence, ambivalent to you, or maybe not all
that attracted to you (yet), she may need a little more time for
you to "work your magic" on her before she'll agree to go out
with you.
So before you ask a girl out, try to figure out where she's at
on the "I'm Into You" spectrum. It WILL affect your outcome.
Now onto the second part:
The Way You Ask Her Out
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This is very important, because it's where most guys make a
mistake. There is a certain strategy to asking a girl out that
can be successful 99% of the time, and I'll share it with you
right here.
Regardless of whether she's into you or not, it's important
that you display your desire for her. Now, I'm not saying you
have to be drooling all over her in lust -- but I am saying
you need to FLIRT with her.
Flirting is important because it will sub communicate your
intentions. Too often, men will hide the fact they like a
girl, and then when they do finally ask her out, the girl
is surprised and scared because it seemed to have come out
of left field.
When you flirt with a girl, what you're doing is "priming
the pump" for the date. So when you DO ask her out, she's
ready for it and in some ways, expecting it. This will
totally bypass that "Shocked deer in headlights" look most
women will give you when they're suddenly asked out by a
guy.
When you try befriending a girl first, you run the risk
of getting pegged in that dreaded "let's just be friends"
category. But if you're flirtatious and the girl knows your
intentions (even if its on a subconscious level), you will
be able to avoid that pitfall because you're making it clear
from the beginning that you want to be more than just
friends.
So if the girl you're working on requires more time, do the
work, but don't completely cloak your intentions. Also,
don't do the "Would you like to go out sometime?" line to
ask a girl out. That's a TOTALLY loaded question because it
instantly snaps her into the "dating" mindset.
You may want to date a girl, but you don't want it to FEEL
like dating, because there are all sorts of preconceived
notions about dating that can work against you in the
long run.
When you ask a girl out, try doing it indirectly. Saying
something like "Hey, I'm going to this great concert (or
movie, or bar, or whatever) tomorrow night. Why don't you
come along?" or "Hey, what are you doing for dinner on
Thursday? I know this great place that I think you'd love!"
When you ask a girl out like this, you are, in fact,
asking her out on a date, but you're bypassing all the
"expectations" of dating. It helps keep things light and
fun while getting you the same result.
If you want to know more about how to tell if a girl is
into you, how to effectively flirt with a girl, and how
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That's it for now! Until next time, Make the rest of your day
great.
Your friend in success,
Robert
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